I want to slow down but I can’t

Busy is part of modern day life. I am busy, you are busy, he is busy, she is busy. We almost busy everyday. Weekdays busy with work, child, friends, life, etc. Weekends busy to recuperate from the hassle of weekdays. Weekends are precious and so short whereas weekdays seems so long.

When we try to slow down and really enjoy life, see your surroundings, many of us will find difficulty because we are so used to busyness… and don’t know how to slow down.

But…

We should learn to slow down so that we will not regret one day – suddenly at 50+, 60+ and asked ourselves?

Where did my precious life and time gone do? What have I really lived and did I really live a fulfilling life with no regrets?

Sad Fact of Life

I don’t know how to slow down. I find it hard to slow down. I

tend to rush through things. When I bring my kids to buy food, grocery shopping at supermarket, not sure why I tend to walk fast and just want to buy and go. It’s difficult to slow down and simply window shop and enjoy time to her.

I guess we are too used to rushing here and there while forgetting how to live a real life.

Remember: We all will die one day

Many people keep thinking tomorrow and tomorrow, forgetting to live today.

Subconsciously they think that they will not die.

For me, I also tend to forget the fact that I do will die one day.

I tend to forget that I am 41 years old this year. If I am lucky, I still have slightly less than half of my life time till 80 years old.

If not, I have already lived and left with less than half of my life.

Is having so much money that important? Job that pays you salary that important?

or there are much more important things in life?

Few pictures that change my life.

Disclaimer (these pictures are not from me. Saw on X and on internet)

No one is immortal.

There is always a last time.

Last time your kids ask you to carry

Last time they climb on you.

Time is the ultimate wealth, not money. pic.twitter.com/OSMSS0q8wb
— Edmond | Careyourpresent(🛸) (@careyourpresent) November 12, 2023

The Book

Remember that I have shared this book earlier?

The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down

Share some texts from the book:

One spring day as I turned thirty, I looked into my mind and realized
three things. The moment I realized them, I knew what I had to do to be
happy.

First, people are not as interested in me as I had always believed. I
cannot remember what my friend was wearing when I saw her a week
ago. Or how her makeup was or what her hair was like. If I cannot
remember, then why would she remember similar things about me?
Although we do think about others from time to time, it is rarely for
more than a few minutes. When we are done thinking about other
people, our minds revert to what immediately concerns us. Why should
we spend so many hours of our lives worrying about how we appear to
others?

Second, not everyone has to like me. After all, I do not like
everyone. Certainly for all of us, there are politicians, coworkers,
clients, and family members we simply cannot stand. So then why
should everyone like me? There is no need to torment yourself because
someone dislikes you. Accept it as a fact of life; you cannot control how
others feel about you. If someone does not like you, let her have her
opinion. Just move on.

Third, if we are brutally honest with ourselves, most things we do for
others are in fact for ourselves. We pray for the well-being of our family
because we need them to be around. We shed tears when our partner
dies because of the impending loneliness. We sacrifice for our children
in the hope that they will grow up the way we want. Unless we become
enlightened like the Buddha or Jesus, it is difficult to abandon our deep-
rooted preoccupation with ourselves.

Stop worrying about what others think and just do what your heart
wishes. Do not crowd your mind with “what ifs.” Uncomplicate your
life and own up to your desires. Only when you are happy can you help
to make the world a happier place.

Please remember this – forget about whatifs. Follow your heart.

Stop worrying about what others think and just do what your heart
wishes.

Do not crowd your mind with “what ifs.” Uncomplicate your
life and own up to your desires.

Only when you are happy can you help
to make the world a happier place.
— Edmond | Careyourpresent(🛸) (@careyourpresent) February 19, 2024

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Money just buy you the chance of freedom but can’t buy back time. In life, there is no reset button. Time is limited but money is not.

When you are young and working, you exchange time for money. When you are old, you can have lots of money but you can’t buy time back, especially the things that you have missed (your strong health, time with young child) while busying striking out in career.

Your kids grew up and they no longer need you to accompany them. They no longer want to sit on your lap to share/do things with you…all these time you spent in your 9 to 6 or even longer cubicles…can the money that you have earned by you back these?

We always thought we have more time with our old parents, but we are wrong. Time with them is ticking away every day. One day it will suddenly be gone. There is no regret medicine, no reset in time. Gone is gone and cannot come back. No matter you are billionaires or millionaires, you cannot reset this.

We always thought that we have more time with our spouse every day, but we are wrong. One day they will be gone too. When you read this, please go tell your spouse that you love him/her and he or she is the best thing that you ever had in your life.

Love your life daily. You have one less day with your spouse, parents, children and yourself. Time is ticking away.

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I want to slow down but I can’t